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January 23, 2011

Who's in Charge? The Customer or You

not I see it all too often but today the confrontation was epic! Let me set the stage in my best boxing ring announcer voice.... "In the red corner, a loud, brash, entitled customer and in the blue corner a poorly selected and ill-trained…

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I see it all too often but today the confrontation was epic! Let me set the stage in my best boxing ring announcer voice.... "In the red corner, a loud, brash, entitled customer and in the blue corner a poorly selected and ill-trained staff....." Cesar Ritz, the founder of the Ritz-Carlton Hotel Company, iscredited with saying "the customer is always right." I am fond of saying that "Cesar was wrong but the customer is always... the customer." What I witnessed today, at a store I will chose not to name, was the worst of both customer and business behavior. I am convinced that some people should be in the service industry. Not everyone has the emotional intelligence to "hear past" the words being stated by an irate customer and listen for what will be needed to de-escalate and hopefully resolve a conflict. Even individuals who have this talent must be trained and supported to grow in conflict mitigation skills. Today, however, the company's representative took the customer's words personally and responded in kind. Had I been interested in watching a yelling match, I would not be complaining to you about the "free" show I was so generously provided. Unfortunately, no one in management interceded to take the customer into a private and calming environment - so the checkout lines became front row seats. Thanks for listening! Now questions for you... How well are you selecting for the emotional intelligence of your customer-facing employees? Does your training provide opportunities to develop conflict management skills? and As a leader, where would you have been today? Standing by or modeling the behavior you expect to see?

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Joseph Michelli, Ph.D., is a Certified Speaking Professional and #1 New York Times bestselling author whose books are drawn from his work inside Starbucks, The Ritz-Carlton, Mercedes-Benz, Airbnb, and Zappos. His new book, Get Me a Person, releases December 8. Signed, personalized copies available now. He helps leadership teams design human-centered, technology-aided experiences that build loyalty and referrals. Start a conversation about your team.

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