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June 25, 2015

"It's not what you know but..."

According to the old adage that sentence stem ends with “who you know.” On stage and in writing lately I have concluded that the old adage doesn’t tell the whole story. As such I have modified it to say: “It’s not what you know OR who you know. It’s…

According to the old adage that sentence stem ends with “who you know.” On stage and in writing lately I have concluded that the old adage doesn’t tell the whole story. As such I have modified it to say: “It’s not what you know OR who you know. It’s what you know ABOUT who you know.” In essence, I am saying you can have a lot of acquaintances but if you don’t truly get to know people you can’t serve them. One person I know well, Howard Partridge the CEO of Phenomenal Products, weighed in on my modified phrase and supercharged it. Howard shares his take: “It’s not what you know OR who you know. It’s what you know ABOUT who you know, and what they know about you (positioning)." We could even add Jim Cathcart’s insight to our phrase. Jim says “it’s who’s glad they know you”. If that isn’t enough to think about, an internet marketer highlights the importance of perception with this tidbit: “it’s who THINKS they know you”. Howard and I agree, if you take this one step further in the age of commoditized products and service… “it’s not not only who knows you, but who LOVES you!" Put all together, try this on for size: It’s not what you know or who you know. It is:

What you know about who you know.

What they know about you.

Who thinks they know you.

Most importantly it is who loves you.

Do I dare ask if you want to make any additions or modifications?

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Joseph Michelli, Ph.D., is a Certified Speaking Professional and #1 New York Times bestselling author whose books are drawn from his work inside Starbucks, The Ritz-Carlton, Mercedes-Benz, Airbnb, and Zappos. His new book, Get Me a Person, releases December 8. Signed, personalized copies available now. He helps leadership teams design human-centered, technology-aided experiences that build loyalty and referrals. Start a conversation about your team.

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